This is a good hadith; we do not know it from the narration of Asma' except through the narration of Ibn Khuthaym.

And Dawud ibn Abi Hind narrated this hadith from Shahr ibn Hawshab, from the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and he did not mention in it: "from Asma'."

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= Ibn Shihab, with this chain of transmission (9124).

Except that his statement therein: "I did not hear it... etc." — there is disagreement over Ibn Shihab as to whether it is part of the original hadith or an insertion from his own speech. Al-Hafiz said in al-Fath 5/300: "This addition is inserted; Muslim made that clear in his narration via the route of Yunus from al-Zuhri, where he mentioned the hadith and said: 'And al-Zuhri said.' Likewise, al-Nasa'i transmitted it separately from the narration of Yunus (9125), and al-Daraqutni in al-'Ilal 5, folio 210, and al-Khatib in al-Fasl li-l-Wasl 1/258–275, and al-Hafiz Musa ibn Harun, as quoted by al-Khatib in al-Fasl li-l-Wasl, favored the view that it is inserted."

And Ahmad (27278) transmitted via the route of Ibn Jurayj, from al-Zuhri, from Humayd ibn 'Abd al-Rahman ibn 'Awf, from his mother Umm Kulthum bint 'Uqbah, that she said: "The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, granted a concession regarding lying in three matters: in war, in reconciling between people, and a man's words to his wife." And Ibn Jurayj is a mudallis and used ambiguous wording in transmission.

And Ahmad (27275), Abu Dawud (4921), and al-Nasa'i (9124) transmitted it via the route of 'Abd al-Wahhab ibn Rafi' (who is trustworthy) from al-Zuhri, from Humayd ibn 'Abd al-Rahman, from Umm Kulthum. And 'Abd al-Wahhab erred in that, as al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar pointed out in al-Fath 5/300.

And it has a sound mursal supporting witness in al-Humaydi (329): Saiman narrated to us, Safwan narrated to me, from 'Ata' ibn Yasar, who said: "A man came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, is there any sin upon me if I lie to my family?' He said: 'No, for Allah does not love lying.' He said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I seek to set things right with her and to win her favor.' He said: 'There is no sin upon you.'"

And the hadith of Umm Kulthum will come from the author in abbreviated form in the following hadith.